Why Young Men Are Suffering And What We Can Do About It
He has statistics on youth are disappointing. Studies show that everyone has a fifth type verhaltensbedingter or mental problem, and that in ten have a serious emotional problem. What is there to our families and culture, promotes this alarming situation?
Many parents put their children in the treatment are emerging disconcerted by the dramatic changes in his son’s behaviour, often in response to a normal and happy childhood. Parents, as a general rule, for the care of their young son, the same methods that employ them, if they were boys; no solution provides physical and emotional need. These young men have never learned how to be satisfied with delays, the management of frustration, or acquire their own resources. This is reinforced by our technological culture, values and gives instant satisfaction.
Recent neurological research showed that puberty triggers massive frontal cortex development among youth. This involves travel dramatic mood, impulsive decision, and the potential for learning increases. In addition, there are readers individuate intensive parent, the new identity and self-US experience changed. Without opportunities for a healthy life and to express this shift of consciousness, often ineffective teens create links with drugs, sex, music, video games, or any activity can be a real addict.
A parent, the best intentions do not give their luck son to the glory of his desire biological most in the world and solve the challenges of life. The additional amount of annihilation, culture that certain outlets and a penalty to freely express their energies leads increasingly to withdraw and / or act out.
They want their parents, but they are hardened by intuition, that is not correct hormonal turbulent storm.
The problem is that we are not the young men that they need to take part in peace with oneself and with the world around them. For thousands of years, a young man, the main objective was clear that the community insulated from the shocks. Respect for the social life of this role has been a powerful source of intrinsic identity, self-respect and sense for young men. Without training and compliance with the Community for this brave, protection capacity, young men today are apathetic and confused.
It is a criticism of the lack of ways and means to establish, with which young men and women into adulthood in our society. All cultures have traditional rituals of transition rituals of initiation and mentoring to promote the healthy development of young people. This period honored activities meet the basic requirement of a young man, namely its rightful place in the world and to his commune. With this recognition, a young man who knows he is a unique institution and specific, which is responsible for the welfare of his community.
The treatment is based on the tradition of mentoring / Initiation teaches models, such as young men from their childhood, release the attitudes it inspires, and find her voice unique. If the therapist / mentor, the young men of their fears of voice over adulthood, without trial, everyone starts to trust one another as their concerns are universal. The therapist / mentor respects men, young people, the organization believes that they have not and should not be broken resolved.
Young men are usually resistant to talk therapy. The effectiveness of the introduction of model enlarged by the fact that the experiment. He has a lot of attributes, which is appealing to young men, for example: the nature, activities, honor, virility and mystery. Crucial personal growth, self-knowledge and confidence won, how to overcome successfully, specially designed for the physical and emotional challenges of initiation. Directly to the experience of the need for the innate intelligence to find his way in life. You will discover that the team are able to achieve much more than it own.
Another key element in this process is that young men are surrounded by adult males, the display and behavior of high moral standards. They learn quickly that men do not understand the principles agreed to negotiate communal. They then begin to emulate the virtues are modeled. Until the end of the process, the young men learn that the same things, like all men, freedom of opinion and expression, fraternity and recognition. And what is most important, they know that it is through respect for oneself and others, that these freedoms are guaranteed.
Mentors are catalysts have been used throughout history to be taught, and the model codes of conduct for the promotion of Family and Community cooperation. A mentor is a responsible qualified same-sex adults in the community, has the ability and commitment to the journey of knowledge they received. It is our experience that when such leaders adults in the right direction, our enthusiastic young men join them!